Have you ever been so furious, that you just snapped? You know what I mean... flipping out on your man because he forgot to do the dishes - again! Or some asshole cuts you off in traffic, and you start screaming at the top of your lungs.
Whether it's road rage, PMS, or a million tiny things driving you crazy, we've all lost our cool at one time or another.
Anger gets a bad rap because of these "lose your shit" moments, but that doesn't mean anger is a bad feeling.
In fact, anger - especially at an injustice - is a catalyst for change.
Think about it... Martin Luther King, Jr. was angry. Gandhi was angry. Even Jesus flipped out when "money changers" were at the temple courts.
Sometimes, we need to yell, scream, and fight. It's ok to yell in certain situations, and scream where civil discourse has failed.
Anger becomes unhealthy when we suppress it, internalize it, and take it out at the wrong person. When that happens, we feel bad, think it's the anger's fault, and do our best to avoid it. Until that anger builds up, and we explode again.
But it doesn't have to be that way. You can feel anger, and not turn into a raging bitch. It is possible! Here's how:
Step 1 = Awareness. Acknowledge that you are pissed, and allow yourself to feel that feeling. Rocking out to your favorite angry music can help.
Step 2 = Pause. Start counting your breath until that first wave of fury passes. Now you can think more clearly.
Step 3 = Get curious. What caused your frustration in the first place? Is it really that asshole's fault, or are you mad at yourself and taking it out on the nearest victim?
Step 4 = Take action. Go for a run, write in your journal, and/or call a trusted friend. Burn off that energy in a constructive way. If you need to have a talk with your man, your boss, a difficult client, etc., do it after you've calmed down.
By taking these steps, you'll be able to channel this powerful energy more constructively, instead of destructively. Building bridges, rather than burning them.
As a result, you will harness the power of your Inner Bitch, and not be ruled by her pent up rage. Like Kali, the goddess of destruction, creation, and motherly love (depicted below).